It’s not only a candy sentiment: Supposedly, feeling exhilarated along with your associate (like while you tiptoe out of your consolation zone) creates a reasonably bodily response in your physique. Butterflies, if you’ll. “With the fun of curler coasters, for instance, our our bodies confuse it with sexual attraction,” Zaraska notes. 

Analysis backs it up: One research requested individuals at an amusement park curler coaster experience to charge their seatmates’ ranges of attractiveness, and located that the attractiveness scores for each men and women had been higher among those exiting the ride. One other paper uncovers three main emotion classes for mating and replica, certainly one of which is “feelings of exhilaration,” and one other older research discovered that individuals tend to feel more aroused after scary experiences. “So when you do one thing that is inflicting you concern, you additionally really feel prefer it’s thrilling,” provides Zaraska.

That doesn’t imply it’s a must to go scale a constructing or bungee bounce to really feel that sense of thrill—particularly within the throes of a pandemic, would possibly we add. Stepping exterior of your consolation zone could be so simple as exploring a new hobby together, or maybe embarking on a secure, socially distant street journey. You may as well watch a suspenseful, spine-chilling film to elicit that frightened-but-sort-of-excited response. So long as you’re making an attempt one thing new that will get your coronary heart pumping, you’ll be able to elicit that pleasure.