I keep in mind speaking to a pal after church a few years in the past. At that time, I had been on my texlax journey for two years and was pleased with the progress it had made. I had washed my hair on Saturday and meant to place it into field braids after church so I may put on my wig to work come Monday morning. I wore it in a cute (for my part) poofy trying bun and off to church I went.
Throughout our catch up, with a glance of real concern, my pal mentioned, “ Your hair is due for a contact up, you need to get it finished quickly as a result of your hair doesn’t look neat”. I excitedly defined to her that my hair was texlaxed and that I had had a contact up simply two weeks prior. I attempted to inform a couple of issues about wholesome hair care.
Lets simply say she didn’t get it. So far as she was involved my hair simply wasn’t tidy and he or she reiterated that I wanted one other contact up as a result of the final one clearly didn’t work.


She wasn’t the primary or final particular person to make such feedback. As of late its feedback about my hair not trying shiny sufficient or your hair is good however don’t you need to get it finished aka styled. Luckily for me I’ve by no means been one to be simply influenced by the views of others about my look so such feedback have by no means a had any detrimental impact on my psyche.
I had seen the wholesome hair care gentle at that time. I had re-learned loads about what black hair is meant to be aesthetically each in its pure and relaxed states. And I used to be tremendous with it.


The priority I’ve and why I made a decision to write down this publish is as a result of the hair of so many black girls is being destroyed by the idea of neatness. While we’ve this time, I want to write posts which I hope will problem us to realize a greater perceive the character of our hair and to see the sweetness in it in whichever state we select to put on or not it’s it pure, texlaxed, relaxed or loc’ed.
Failure to take action has lead numerous girls to maintain everlasting hair loss and lots of extra are on that path.


Afro hair is textured.
Even relaxed hair retains some extent of texture.
Once we get a recent relaxer, our hair would possibly look very modern for some time however after a couple of washes, the feel retained is often obvious. Because of this  relaxed hair typically doesn’t mix properly with Caucasian and Asian hair extensions and using closures, frontals or flat irons on the relaxed hair is required to cover the telling distinction in texture. Relaxed hair continues to be black hair. It won’t look transfer or behave like different hair varieties.  And remenber even absolutely relaxed hair shouldn’t be relaxed past 80% as a result of past this level an excessive amount of harm (aka protein loss) would have occured and the hair would have misplaced its elasticity.  This is only one instance in why the idea of wholesome relaxed hair is feasible, ie wholesome by relaxed hair requirements, however thats a battle for an additional day.
This will likely not apply to over processed relaxed hair however even hair that’s over-processed may have some stunning new development spring up inside a couple of weeks.

Our hair is textured and the extra texture we remove, the extra harm is induced to our hair.
The feel of our hair which is one in all its defining traits, even in its relaxed state, is sadly perceived by many inside our personal communities as untidy, tough and in want of “fixing”. So we pull, stretch, gel, smoothen and trace of texture away and put the well being of our hair in danger each time we do that. Please don’t confuse this with merely making textured hair look tidy or daily grooming.
Moisturizing, sealing and utilizing a really mushy brush will make our hair look neat however by no means give the extent of sleekness I’m referring to.

The issue is that this, what’s neat for afro textured hair (pure or relaxed) mustn’t and can’t be what’s neat by Caucasian or Asian hair aesthetics. Our hair should not be judged by these requirements.
Put it this manner, our hair is totally different and our neatness is totally different too. Our presentable will not be their presentable

Understanding this will likely simply assist a couple of girls keep away from the surplus or each day use of edge management merchandise mixed with a really agency brush.

It could assist a girl with lower than one inch of latest development put the relaxer down for a couple of extra weeks. (this will likely not apply to pixie cuts however that may be a story for an additional day).

It could assist a couple of girls keep away from having their in loopy tight buns and ponytails with a lot rigidity and gel that their afro hair which is huge and poofy in its true state turns into utterly flattened.
There may be nothing improper with such types when finished often and with a variety of warning.

Finished commonly and incorrectly, the above acts typically results in traction alopecia and different sorts of hair loss which many women don’t absolutely bounce again from relying on its severity and the extent of harm sustained.

Earlier than we attempt to “neaten” our hair, allow us to simply pause to ask ourselves; is my hair truly tough/untidy or is simply black hair being its textured self? Are we assessing the neatness by the proper requirements? Or we nonetheless judging our magnificence by means of the improper lens.

I hope this publish helps somebody studying take a look at the hair and grade its neatness in a brand new gentle

One other publish can be up in a couple of days so see you quickly.



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