When we’re grieving, you need to be able to compartmentalize or distract yourself. No one can grieve 24/7—it’s too painful. So don’t judge yourself for throwing yourself into work, a Netflix binge, a bottle of wine, or the arms of a rebound.

Just know that eventually, you will have to feel in order to heal. You can just see it as productive “work” that’s necessary to get to the other side. I recommend journaling, listening to music, creating art, speaking to a therapist, and getting into your body as that’s where grief is held: Yoga, dance, walking, acupuncture, and massage are a few that have been really helpful for me during this time.